How to Set Boundaries and Find Peace
God never intended for us to feel like we are victims of our relationships. Still, many Christians will hesitate to draw boundary lines because they don't want to be unloving. If you've been feeling frustrated and burnt out, you need to learn how to set boundaries and find peace in your life. Today on the Joie Miller Podcast, we're talking about the signs that you may need to set boundaries, how to establish your no, and allow time to heal and become healthy.
Setting boundaries teaches people how to treat you. If you don’t establish healthy boundaries, people can take advantage of you and make you miserable.
“Above all else, guard your heart, for out of it comes every other issue.” - Proverbs 4:23
You might need to set boundaries if…
Your relationships tend to be difficult or dramatic.
You find it hard to make decisions.
You feel like you have to do whatever it takes to make people happy.
You frequently feel guilt and anxiety.
You feel like a victim to your situation.
Boundaries are protection. They keep us from just canceling people out of our lives, but we can create healthy boundaries so that we can coexist in our lives.
3 Tips to Set Boundaries and Find Peace
Separate the issue from the person.
If you are around a person and it’s constantly toxic, you have to identify if it’s a them issue or a me issue. You can love someone and still need to establish boundaries so that the relationship is healthy.
Establish your no.
No is a complete sentence. You don’t need to explain everything. It can be hard to do this at first, but you have to do it clearly and with love. Let go of fear. You can’t save people, only God can save them.
Allow time to heal and become healthy.
Get space to heal and look at things with a fresh perspective.
Pray this: Father God, I want my relationships to please you. Show me where there are areas that are unhealthy and help me to identify the root issue. Give me the courage and wisdom to set clear boundaries with the people in my life. Help me to continue to guard my heart and love people like you love them. In Jesus’ name, amen!