Relationships Done Right
Relationships are a beautiful thing but sometimes they don’t feel like it. The enemy thrives in drama, chaos, bitterness, jealousy, and backbiting. These types of relationships aren’t a blessing at all. Before you came to know Christ, maybe your relationships looked like an episode of the Bachelor or Real Housewives, but after we come to know Christ, everything, including relationships, begins to change. Whether it is a relationship with a co-worker, spouse, child, family member, or friend, let God redefine what relationship means.
I am naturally a shy person! (I know you would never believe it!) My tendency would be to sit back and stay unnoticed. While this kept me in my comfort zone, it also left me feeling incredibly lonely. I would be frustrated why I didn’t have a ton of relationships in my life. After coming to know Christ, I was able to break out of my shell. I allowed God’s love (1 Corinthians 13) to reteach me how to do life and relationship with others. As I grew in love with the Lord, I also grew in love for others, and confidence in myself. It was an Ah-ha moment for me. In order for me to attract the kind of relationships I longed for, I had to be the kind of person I wanted to attract. Even though I couldn’t change others, with the help of Holy Spirit, I could change me!
That’s my challenge to you today. Whether you are single looking for a spouse, married and longing for joy and peace again, or you are looking for good, solid Christian friendships, ask yourself the question, “What can I change?” Filter your life through this scripture:
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Become Love. Love doesn’t quit easily. Love makes allowance for faults, love forgives. When you become love, every other relationship in your life falls into place.
Here are some quick relationship tips that you can start implementing today!
- You attract who you are, not what you want. Start being who you want to attract.
- Release honor even when you don’t feel like it. Honor keeps your heart free!
- CHOOSE to let go of the past. Holding on to the past keeps it on constant replay in your life and emotions.
- Highlight the right moments. The enemy would want us to always focus on the negative but be sure to focus on the good.
- No matter what your life and relationships have looked like-- break the cycle of dysfunction! With God you can live happy and in peace!
As iron sharpens iron, one man sharpens another. Proverbs 27:17